I’ve been thinking a lot lately on the whole “Hipster”… thing. I posted an article that I thought was really interesting then my mind just keep going. I slipped in discussions about hipsters to a bunch of different people so I could get some perspective.

The most interesting conversation I had was with an anonymous Louisiana born Boomer whom I sat with on an airplane on my way out to San Fransisco for MacWorld 2010.  She said something really interesting that really resonated with me. She said she felt like hipsters don’t stand for anything and she felt like that was weird. She said if “if you don’t stand for somethin’, you don’t stand for nothin’”.

What I want to rant know about is, what’s with Hipsters denying they’re Hipster? I know it’s hipster to be ironic but COME ON. Is it that hipsters are so overwhelmingly paranoid/insecure about their lack of authenticity like many claim? I don’t know because I find hipsters to be authentic.

I AM a hipster by definition and from my perspective I feel like I know a lot of unbelieveably well rounded, well traveled, well spoken and well educated (hipster) people. I completely disagree with the airplane Louisianian’s notion that being about everything means you’re ultimately about nothing. I think the world has just never seen the rise of such a global society member so they don’t know how to react to and classify them.

 

Hipsters are the original bi-product of the first, in my opinion, truly global economy. We’re the first TRULY global generation and it’s in large part due to the rise of technology happening while we were being raised. There’s no other generation that’s been able to be so interconnected, so networked and so enabled to be this way. To me it seems every generation feels like there’s no generation like it that came before it but this time I feel it’s truly more the case, at least if we’re talking in terms of global reality communications leaving deep societal impressions on the youth.

I know it’s corny to quote the dictionary but I found this GREAT definition of a hipster that most encompasses any description of hipsters I’ve ever seen over at Urban Dictionary:

Hipsters are a subculture of men and women typically in their 20′s and 30′s that value independent thinking, counter-culture, progressive politics, an appreciation of art and indie-rock, creativity, intelligence, and witty banter. The greatest concentrations of hipsters can be found living in the Williamsburg, Wicker Park, and Mission District neighborhoods of major cosmopolitan centers such as New York, Chicago, and San Francisco respectively. Although “hipsterism” is really a state of mind,it is also often intertwined with distinct fashion sensibilities. Hipsters reject the culturally-ignorant attitudes of mainstream consumers, and are often be seen wearing vintage and thrift store inspired fashions, tight-fitting jeans, old-school sneakers, and sometimes thick rimmed glasses. Both hipster men and women sport similar androgynous hair styles that include combinations of messy shag cuts and asymmetric side-swept bangs. Such styles are often associated with the work of creative stylists at urban salons, and are usually too “edgy” for the culturally-sheltered mainstream consumer. The “effortless cool” urban bohemian look of a hipster is exemplified in Urban Outfitters and American Apparel ads which cater towards the hipster demographic. Despite misconceptions based on their aesthetic tastes, hipsters tend to be well educated and often have liberal arts degrees, or degrees in maths and sciences, which also require certain creative analytical thinking abilities. Consequently many hipsters tend to have jobs in the music, art, and fashion industries. It is a myth that most hipsters are unemployed and live off of their parent’s trust funds.
Hipsters shun mainstream societal conventions that apply to dating preferences and traditional “rules” of physical attraction. It is part of the hipster central dogma not to be influenced by mainsream advertising and media, which tends to only promote ethnocentric ideals of beauty. The concepts of androgyny and feminism have influenced hipster culture, where hipster men are often as thin as the women they date. The muscular and athletic all-American male ideal is not seen as attractive by confident and culturally-empowered hipster women who instead view them as symbols of male oppression, sexism, and misogyny. Likewise, culturally-vapid sorority-type girls with fake blond hair, overly tanned skin, and “Britney Spears tube-tops” are not seen as attractive by cultured hipster males who instead see them as symbols of female insecurity, low self-esteem, and lack of cultural intelligence and independent thinking. Hipsters are also very racially open-minded, and the greatest number of interracial couples in any urban environment are typically found within the hipster subculture.

Although hipsters are technically conformists within their own subculture, in comparison to the much larger mainstream mass, they are pioneers and leaders of the latest cultural trends and ideals. For example, the surge of jeans made to look old and worn (i.e. “distressed”), that have become prevalent at stores such as The Gap, American Eagle, Abercrombie and Fitch, and Hollister, were originally paraded by hipsters who shopped in thrift stores years before such clothing items were mass produced and sold to the mainstream consumer. The true irony here is that many of the detractors of hipster culture are in fact unknowingly following a path that hipsters have carved out years before them. This phenomena also applies to music as well, as many bands have become successful and known to mainstream audiences only because hipsters first found and listened to them as early-adopters of new culture. Once certain concepts of fashion and music have reached mainstream audiences, hipsters move on to something new and improved.

Because of the rise of various online photo-blog and social networking sites, insights into urban hipster culture is reaching sheltered suburban audiences at an exponential rate. Cultural “norms” have been deconstructed by hipster culture as a whole. Hipsterism is often dismissed as just an image thing by some, but the culture as a whole is effecting changes in society, leading to feelings of insecurity and resentment in people who are no longer a part of the cultural ruling class. For example, a lot of anti-hipster sentiment evidently comes from culturally-clueless suburban frat boy types who feel that the more sensitive, intelligent, and culturally aware hipster ideal threatens their insecure sense of masculinity. Anti-hipster sentiment often comes from people who simply can’t keep up with social change and are envious of those who can.”

So, there’s that. I kind of just wanted to share.

Something many in the Millennial generation struggle with, and will continue to struggle with well into grad school, is the concept of staying.

It’s true. Life isn’t easy and everyone has jobs they don’t like. What happens though with Millennials that hasn’t happened in the past? We leave en masse if things are less than fair or present opportunities to use our current job as a launch-pad into other jobs don’t pan out. Long gone are the days of working for one company for an entire career.

So, Gen Y is job-flighty. This is both good and bad. It’s good because if a Millennial gets poached by another company it’s a good indicator that it’s time to reassess WHY people stay and also WHY they leave. Being flighty means we are potentially well-rounded if we’ve played our cards right during all of this job hopping.

When it goes bad at a job, and I mean really, really bad, there’s opportunity to learn and I think this is a lesson Gen Y doesn’t learn often enough: sticking around when things aren’t easy.

Austin Light, one of my fav local to Charlotte, NC bloggers, has this great job like/dislike ratio I keep referring to in convos lately that you should check out:

60/40—There are parts of this job you really like, but the parts you don’t like can be pretty infuriating, and they seem to come around with an annoyingly consistent frequency. Overall you’re happy here—it pays the bills, has decent benefits, and you get along with most of your coworkers—but if a job better or equal to this were to present itself elsewhere, you’d probably go for it.

50/50—Half the time you like your job, the other half you hate it, and you never know which way it will go. You’re probably thinking about moving on, and you might do some casual job searching, but there’s still a part of you that thinks things can turn around if you stick with it. Overall, you’re not thrilled to be here, but something—the people, the benefits, the hours—is good enough to keep you in your cube.”

So, when are we supposed to know when to stay and when to go? Right there at 60/40 and 50/50. IMHO, if you’re on the fence, you should stay. Why? Because life is shitty sometimes and it’s important that you learn now to stick around when things are lame instead of growing into a person who is so flighty no one would want to hire you… ever. Moral of this story: just like in  dating if someone shows too little lack of commitment, it gets even weirder when you’re older and won’t commit. Commitment phobia isn’t a good look both in dating and in the workforce!

This isn’t to say Millennials shouldn’t move up/over/all around within a company but really and truly, it’s important not to go off on a job hunt when minor blips at work make things a PITA.

The “Great Recession” has 2/3 Millennials 18+ working a full or part time job right now according to the latest Pew Research C enter  report called “Millennials. A Portrait of Generation Next” that was released today. What’s important to note about that is even though 2/3 of us may have a job, we’re the first to be fired and the last to be hired. The implications as to why one shouldn’t run off at the first bump in the road is, to me, obvious.

Despite how much it makes me smile at the fact that the Pew report also  says “older Millennials with full-time jobs may just be the happiest workers in America” because *I’m an “older millennial”, the message is the same from me. Buck up and work hard where you are if things are “meh”. You’ll know when it’s time to go and “meh” moments are not the right time.

You’ll be seeing a lot of content/examination come from me in the next little bit surrounding this PRC report on Millennials. Its 175 pages long and in order for me to digest it properly I need to examine it. Lucky (??) for you I’ll be doing it here on Heroes Rising.

Catch you later! :)

Oh, here’s the full report:

http://pewsocialtrends.org/assets/pdf/millennials-confident-connected-open-to-change.pdf

Have fun!

My mom and I are very close. She’s a pretty typical Boomer, I’d say.  She’s just as much of a Baby Boomer as I am a Millennial.

I like that I feel like she know’s where I’m coming from because she grew up in the 60s/70s and a lot of that carries over into who I am today. We are very close because we are so similar. However narcissistic it may sound, I feel like I know my mom as well as I do because I know myself pretty well and she of me.

I generally did not advocate for my mom to join Facebook. LinkedIn maybe, Facebook, no. She joined some time ago at the urge of her girlfriends. Since Boomer moms are the fastest growing demographic on Facebook I wasn’t terribly surprised. I try to stay abreast on some social media trends, particularly when it relates to generational topics.

I stressed to my mom the importance of online privacy some weeks ago. We spoke on the phone and what she told me was surprising to her but again, not to me. She’d been contacted from someone out of the woodwork of her life, as does often happen with social media, within only a few days of her accidentally leaving her profile unprotected. What I found interesting was the way we both choose to handle these types of things. I think it greatly exemplifies the chasm that exists even between similar people.

The only factor causing the complete opposite opinions on how to broach this topic that sets us apart, from what I can ascertain, is when we were born.

It got me thinking and what I think is this: We approach the handling of internet privacy in such drastically  different ways because of the generation that defines us both, respectively.

My mom’s tactic is to completely shut nearly everyone out of seeing any information about her. She finds solace in the sanctity of her “protected” profile.

My tactic is exactly opposite of hers albeit much more calculated (something she doesn’t have time for nor the desire to maintain). I tightly control the information that is readily available or easily accessible about me by putting things up I CAN control.

When you Google my name, you’re seeing the product of my handiwork. I have a ubiquitous message across the internet. When you google her name, nothing comes up about her and that’s on purpose as well.

The internet has been around my whole life. I honestly feel like I have a much more organic relationship with our society’s knowledge base than my mom does. Many parts of what makes me smart rely heavily on the internet. Personal branding, to me, is nothing but an extension of a message board profile was 10 years ago.

Instead of filling out an “about me” on a webpage, I fill out my “about me” on the web. I came to maturity with this mentality. My mom didn’t so she’s closed up when it comes to the internet, as she should be in my opinion.

I understand why my mom is on Facebook but I still don’t really advocate it though I do have to admit it’s cute hearing her learning things that I can distinctly remember learning about the internet and how people network through it nearly 15 years ago when I got my first computer, a strawberry iMac with a snappy 40gig hard drive.

What I think is important to learn here is an outward facing message for Boomers from your Millennial 20-something children: You warned us that the internet had child molesters and other nefarious ‘net hooligans but the tide has changed.

It’s time you practiced what you preached in terms of personal privacy on the internet.

You need to choose a stance: Either control your message or be an impenetrable silo on the topic. Also, it has to be one or the other, no wavering. No matter what the medium, the important part is that you’re conscious of the fact you absolutely have to make a choice when it comes to how you’re going to conduct yourself on the internet.

My mom was lucky that it wasn’t anyone too terribly creepy that crept up from her past but, as I’m sure many internet natives can attest, you seriously never know who is going to come crawling out of the social media patchwork.

Just be safe. We trust you. :)

“We are a lost generation, desperately clinging to anything that feels real, but too afraid to become it ourselves. We are a defeated generation, resigned to the hypocrisy of those before us, who once sang songs of rebellion and now sell them back to us. We are the last generation, a culmination of all previous things, destroyed by the vapidity that surrounds us. The hipster represents the end of Western civilization – a culture so detached and disconnected that it has stopped giving birth to anything new.”

*sigh

It’s important that you read this.

https://www.adbusters.org/magazine/79/hipster.html

GEN Y PRINCESS: Princess Beatrice of York

BORN: 1988

COUNTRY: England

PREDOMINANT MILLENNIAL TRAIT: Civic mindedness

Apart from the goofy pic, this sweet British princess uses her influence to help those in need.

-       HIV infected children in Russia

-       Springboard for Children

-       Teenage Cancer Trust

-       Children in Crisis

-       Elephant Family

GEN Y PRINCESS: Princess Madeleine

BORN: 1982

COUNTRY: Sweden

PREDOMINANT MILLENNIAL TRAIT: Her um… CIVIC MINDEDNESS is one of her “assets” :P

She up and moved to NYC to work for UNICEF!

GEN Y PRINCESS: Princess Kako Akishino

BORN: 1994

COUNTRY: Japan

PREDOMINANT MILLENNIAL TRAIT: Civic mindedness

She’s a sign language interpreter, helping her peers communicate as a team! Also, her amazing hairstyle is a civic gift to the rest of us. LOVE IT!

I’ll admit it, there was a time when I called my mom WAY too much at work.

When she got an admin the same age as I am, a couple of years younger I think, it was weird for me to call and have her admin answer. I was accustomed to being able to dial her number directly and get my mom on the other end. With the implementation of this buffer, it’s done a lot for me in terms of making me think twice about calling my mom at her office. It just seems awkward asking a young professional on the other end of the line “Hi, is my mom there?”.

But then today something happened.

I switched jobs a couple of weeks ago and at my new job there is a Millennial who calls HIS mom at work a bunch. It made me realize that this is another element of being GenY that is often not addressed. Since Boomer parents tend to keep their children close to them even well into adulthood (it’s just a parenting style thing), it makes sense that they’d allow their children to access them easily while they’re at work, too.

Now I am the assistant answering the phone for someone’s mom. It makes me feel a little less worried that I’m being a needy brat and realizing more so that there are many, many other Millennials like me.

Me catching him off-guard when he calls asking “Is my mom there?” helps me understand what my mom’s admin was likely feeling when she started.  It’s given me perspective into myself.

I don’t feel awkward at all having someone in my age group calling and asking in a plain voice to speak to his mom. In fact, it reminds me that I too need to speak to my mom more often. LOL

So thank you, son of my boss, for helping me realize I’m not the only one that gets caught off-guard when I don’t get a direct line to my mom. It’s moments like this that really give me clarity into the common experiences we all share.

Dear Baby Boomers,

We need to have a talk. I’m sick and tired of the “Kick Me” sign you’ve slapped on my back and this is the final straw.

I understand that you need healthcare. I’m not saying you shouldn’t, but this bill you are passing through the House of Representatives is setting me up for failure. You know it, too, but you keep on anyway because you’re selfish bastards.

You’re at a different, more established place in life. You’ve built your empire, established your family and had your chance at a career you can be proud of. I’m just starting to lay the foundation for what will never be an empire because you keep stealing the bricks of financial stability and growth potential out from under me.

Newsweek reports this new bill:

“…mandates that health insurance premiums for older Americans be no more than twice the level of that for younger Americans. That’s much less than the actual health spending gap between young and old. Spending for those age 60 to 64 is four to five times greater than those 18 to 24. So, the young would overpay for insurance that—under the House bill—people must buy: Twenty-and thirtysomethings would subsidize premiums for fifty-and sixtysomethings.”

“A single person 55 to 64 might save $3,490, estimates an Urban Institute study. By contrast, single people in their 20s and early 30s might pay about $600 to $1,100 more. For the young, the extra cost might be larger, says economist Diana Furchtgott-Roth of the Hudson Institute, because the House bill would require them to purchase fairly generous insurance plans rather than cheaper catastrophic coverage that might better suit their needs.”

How am I supposed to succeed, grow my family, save for my OWN retirement, invest in MY future when I’m paying for your shortcomings of the past?

What have I ever done to you to deserve this? My friends and I are unemployed just like you are. I don’t HAVE $4,590+ to give. Our tuitions are higher, I’ve got significantly more debt than you did at my age and this floodgate you all have open on federal debt, honestly, makes me sick. You’re setting your own children up for failure.

Shame on you,

The Millennial Generation

Further Reading: Newsweek: “Health ‘Reform’ That Burdens Our Young”

Gen Y is evolving. New data came out yesterday from a survey done by Career Edge Organization of 1000 Canadians ages 18-29. The results?

Gen Y attributes more value to merit than they do to tenure when considering advancement at work. This theme of “quality over quantity” is also evident. They are tasks and results driven and want to be evaluated by their performance and not other attributes.

Gen Y is a results-oriented group. They’re not going to wait patiently for their turn when it comes to promotions, raises, etc. if they’re doing higher quality work than someone with greater tenure. The data shown throughout the survey also suggests that they expect regular performance reviews and feedback. While Gen Y believes tenure is still an important factor when making decisions pertaining to advancement, rewarding performance comes first.

Gen Y’s long-term career goals are less about making money and becoming independently wealthy, and more about doing meaningful work and finding a harmony between personal and professional time.

The data: respondents were asked whether they agreed that these statements reflected their own personal long-term goals. Here are the top 3 responses:

61% “To achieve a satisfactory level of work-life balance”
57% “To do meaningful and challenging work”
43% “To have job security”

Well, duh. They also found:

When treated loyally, Gen Y reciprocates. They expect the same things from their employers as their employers expect from them. For the most part, Gen Y believes they owe their employers loyalty, and vice versa. They simply expect to be compensated fairly and rewarded when they exceed expectations. If anything, these responses from Gen Y are indicative of bad employers. Employers who aren’t capable of reciprocating the loyalty that Gen Y offer will find themselves in a difficult employer-employee relationship.

Another ‘duh’ moment for me. This is the real-life canary in the coal mine situation I mentioned in my Gen Y in the Workplace post back in April. This is all stuff people in my cohort already knew.

What’s great about this survey though is it gives other generations hard data to relate with. Unless other generations can magically read the sentiments of an entire generation through osmosis, surveys like this are great for us. Hard numbers are tough to dispute!

Simply stated, early wave Millennials grew up in a culture of metrics. Our Boomer parents wanted to know if we were hitting benchmarks at the appropriate times, if we were where we were supposed to be for our age, etc. We grew up in an age of hyper-parenting. “Child safety” initiatives in overdrive was but a daily occurrence in our households. So much so that this extreme awareness of external factors that could possibly hinder achievement of childhood milestones was reflected in parenting styles shifting to everything being 100% child safe. Things MUST be “childproof” so nothing could stand in the way of the achievement of their special, one of a kind child. In fact, “childproof” in terms of “safeguarding a child’s future” could be a euphemism this day in age for “I’m the parent and my kid is going to do what I say, regardless of what they’re naturally inclined to do/be.”

I don’t believe it’s advantageous to say that each generation, while hoping to be nothing like their parents, ultimately ends up actually quite similar. We pick and choose what glaring items we don’t want to replicate and the rest just comes naturally. At least, this is how it’s been in the past.

Millennials are peculiar and I suspect won’t fall into this rhythm of hyperactive parenting. In fact, I think early wave Millennials will be exactly the opposite. At least from my experience, in general we trust the world around us and it’s seen in our generally hopeful and sunny outlook on the future. The cheery disposition isn’t just in the US, too. In Canada, Millennials are referred to as The Sunshine Generation, even.

So what does this have to do with parenting? I think this level of trust in the environment created for us is going to result in exactly opposite parenting styles being seen than we were raised with. Without having to focus in on making everything child-proof to the extent the Boomers did, a more ‘hands off’ parenting style of ‘letting go’ will emerge. Childhood’s mile markers and measuring sticks will go out the window in lieu of creating a self actualized child who is well rounded and not so overly achievement motivated. Of course, this does not apply to all, but I do think we’ll see this trend come to the forefront.

Now, I’m not saying that Millennials won’t be safe or care about the safety of their children. I’m referring to things beyond direct physical danger. Millennials won’t safeguard their kids as much by pushing them towards a set life path. They won’t enroll them in after school college prep programs while they’re in middle school, etc. I think we’ll see a shift away from focusing on milestones and metrics. I think we’ll notice a move towards less ‘safeguarding’ children’s future because truly, whatever Gen Y children turn out to be will be just fine for Gen Y to accept since we accept and encourage diversity & individuality so much within our peers today.

I’d love to hear my readers’ thoughts on this. What do you think? Are Millennials set to repeat their parent’s ways with their children or has so much of the hard work already been done for us that we’ll be more hands off with our offspring?

“A leader is a person whose charisma helps them to guide a group of people in a direction they believe is desirable. Someone with authority uses their power to guide a group of people in a direction they believe is desirable. The key difference is, of course, power. If a person has the ability force a person to perform a certain act, or the ability to otherwise coerce them, than that person is an authoritarian. They may also be a leader, but they are definitely an authoritarian. A leader guides people by the infectious nature of their vision. People want to follow them, but they are perfectly free not to. This freedom must include the clause “with no negative repercussions applied by the leader or the group,” otherwise the leader is also an authoritarian.”

I’m curious to know what everyone thinks. If Gen Y is narcissistic, arrogant and entitled, are we going to use our numbers to act in an authoritarian way once we rise as the majority?  I think it’s possible.

At this point in time, I don’t think it’s difficult to develop correlations to how growing up during the Depression is like growing up in the Recession:

“Living through the Great Depression has caused me to be tight. I don’t ever want to throw anything away. My old coats, dresses and pant suits hang in the closet; well, we might need to use them again. I guess I’m not so bad that way now, but I used to be. My advice for the future: don’t splurge; be economical with everything.” – Verla Hendrickson Daniels Brienholt

“I would say they better start saving as soon as they get married so they’ll have something to fall back on if there ever comes a depression. Savings is one of the best things you can do, save a little bit out of your pay check each month, so you always have a nest egg. I remember that both banks closed when the depression started and that made it so much worse for the people in town because they couldn’t get to their money. And it was just rough all the way through it.” – Crystal Bell

After reading this article by the Daily Telegraph, I would not be surprised if we started hearing comments coming out of Millennials in the years to come that echo the ones above. Even though it’s not as extreme now as it was during the Depression, the youth of today are still affected on a global level:

Financial data on teen money habits, obtained when researchers for Australia’s largest credit file bureau Veda Advantage interviewed 2000 children aged between 12 and 18, uncovered a disturbing trend of money stress.

Nearly 70 per cent worried about money, most have a  savings account and plan to pay for their own cars, education and house.

“Teens are considering their financial future and putting their quality of life ahead of immediate materialistic goals,” teen researcher Habbo Asia Pacific director Jeff Brookes said.

These are just observations for the time being. I will note that CNN.money says it best. Thusfar, “Comparisons between this economic recession and the Great Depression are common, but the granddaddy of all downturns was far worse.”

My October goals recap – 100% success:

1. TAKE MY ELMIRON CONSISTENTLY. NO EXCUSES. KILLED IT!

2. Blog at least once a week on either Heroes Rising or CLTBlog. KILLED THIS ONE AS WELL.

I wrote up a storm Heroes Rising:

GenY women in the workplace: Gossip – I was really stoked about this one because I got a Modite shoutout. :D

GenY Workplace Leadership

How to Apologize to Your Boss

GenY & the Economic Collapse of 2012 – I’m really proud of this one because not only did I get an unreal amount of traffic from this post, the residual comments I got on twitter & facebook as well as in person was really awesome. I sat and spoke with A Daily Pinch’s Lisa and her husband for a good 3 hours over coffee last week and it was fantastic, we spoke on this a good bit. Love good, real convos that spring fourth from social media!

How to Insult your Female GenY Employees Quickly – This post lead to me posting my Officially Official Disclaimer the comments reveal exactly why.

Heroes Rising landed on the Charlotte Observer’s interactive media site! This is a huge success for me as it brings my blog to a huge audience as the Observer is the large news presence in Charlotte. Check it out!

charlotte.com

I wrote more than usual for CLTBlog as well. I even wrote a post that got me on the local news!

Uptown Charlotte men’s hairstyles hit all-time low

Desiree Kane will be on Fox News tonight, talking hairstyles

Desiree’s BroFro hair clip on Fox News Edge

I went to a high profile dinner at Fantasia Barrino’s home which was AMAZING! She’s incredibly charming and her speaking voice is just as enchanting as her singing voice. I was a little bummed out with the interview only because the audio on it was so terrible that later I couldn’t even transcribe what she said because you can’t hear anything. :/

Fantasia Barrino & Macy’s pair up with Feeding America

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I volunteered at BarCamp Charlotte 2 as well as spoke on a panel on the #FoJ with Andria Krewson and Monthly Goals Meetup participant and fellow writer/blogger Austin Light:

First photos of BarCamp Charlotte 2 – I did not write this post but its kind of cool because while I’m not front and center in the main post’s photo, I am in the front right. See my cheesy mug? LOL

BarCamp kick-off

I also wrote for Charlotte Center City Partners on their Center City 2010/Center City 2020 vision:

ImaginOn, UNCC Uptown & First Ward Park – I’m really hyped about this because it’s a paid writing gig. Though I’m not looking to make money with my writing I’m not going to turn down a few bucks. ;)

3. Eat at least 1 salad a week. I love fast food and it needs to stop.

While I most certainly did NOT eat one salad a week, I did eat three salads last week and started eating breakfast every workday morning. I’ve found a deep love for what I call Oatmeal Beverage which is basically mildly soupy instant oatmeal served in a coffee cup. It’s SO HANDY when I’m sitting at my work desk to just drink it. My doc says I need more fiber so I get 4g daily from that, it’s 100% whole grain, which is good for me, even though I don’t have high cholesterol if I eat fast food, it can never hurt to try to keep it low and oats do that and finally, eating a good breakfast has curbed (but not totally stopped) my natural inclination to binge eat fast food when I’m overly hungry or stressed. My unhealthy relationship with food is really what I have an issue with so I’ll address that in this month’s goals.

4. Continue to either do one active thing a week that is truly active or work out. NO EXCUSES.

I didn’t work out a ton but I did do a lot more active stuff this month.

For BarCampCLT I worked my booty off volunteering for 4 hours the day before, 8 hours that day, spent 3 hours painting signs at home that were used for directing people to the proper spots, etc. I tried to just be more active in general and I feel like I accomplished 80% of this goal so I am crossing it off. :)

Goals for November:

  1. Taking leadership from Austin Light, I’m going to unplug on Tuesdays. All in all, it’ll be really good for my mental wellbeing.
  2. Continue to be active beyond just in front of the computer, which is where I was really active last month.
  3. Unplug for the entire week I am on the cruise ship down to Cozumel with one of my best girl friends Candid Katie except for when/if we speak at Social Fresh’s SoCruise. I really want to add speaking at a social media conference beyond BarCampCLT & CLTJelly to my resume, just because. :)
  4. Continue to improve my relationship with food. They say recognizing your problem is the first and hardest step. Now that I know I do it and recognize when I’m binging (no purging, I promise!) I can take preventative measures like eating breakfast and simply not allowing myself to get so overly stressed. I have some major life changes coming up this month that I can’t extrapolate on just yet but that will help… A LOT.
  5. Blog at least once a week on either HeroesRising or CLTBlog. I’m repeating this goal because last month I had a lot of success with it beyond just the writing. I’d like to continue this trend. :)

The views expressed on Heroes Rising are explicitly my views, not the views of my employers past, present, future, or their affiliates.

You: Approach the tech-adept Millennial employee with an overly complicated & redundant, non-automated issue, lamenting on how egregious the whole process is.

Her: “Here, would you like me to show you how to do xyz on your iPhone? I can! It’s super easy and will make xyz task much quicker.”

You: “Sure.”

Her: Patiently showing you how easy it is if you just do this, this and this.

You: act awkward and uncomfortably by saying “Yeah, ok. Got it.”

Her: “What’s wrong?”

You: “I’m just not comfortable with young women teaching me technology.”

Gen Y/ Millennial/ Hero generation cohorts are going to fuel the secular crisis and economic collapse that is being predicted as early as 2012.

Boomer Paul Farrell of MarketWatch ran a rather provocative article called Death of ‘Soul of Capitalism’: Bogle, Faber, Moore. 20 reasons America has lost its soul and collapse is inevitable Tuesday.

He asks himself: “How are you so sure about this final collapse?” The answer: “Of all the questions I have about the future, this is the easiest one to answer. Once a society becomes successful it becomes arrogant, righteous, overconfident, corrupt, and decadent … overspends … costly wars … wealth inequity and social tensions increase; and society enters a secular decline.” Success makes us our own worst enemy.

What caught me off guard just as I was about to write off the entire article as a hyped up article about something far off in the future from the fear mongering media was this ominous statement:

“”America Capitalism” is a “Lost Soul” … we’ve lost our moral compass … the coming collapse is the end of an “inevitable” historical cycle stalking all great empires to their graves. Downsize your lifestyle expectations, trust no one, not even media.

Faber is uncertain about timing, we are not. There is a high probability of a crisis and collapse by 2012. The “Great Depression 2″ is dead ahead. Unfortunately, there’s absolutely nothing you can do to hide from this unfolding reality or prevent the rush of the historical imperative. “

Though not primarily responsible for its decline, Gen Y will be directly tied into perpetuating the economic collapse American society will face in a few short years. I’ll tell you why:

As Millennials move into young adulthood during the recession we are currently experiencing, ever more are Millennials going to become more and more self aware and, in turn, learning to challenge the political failure of generations before them. Not only will Millennials learn to challenge these failures, Millennials will be vocal about it in droves.

The beginning of this was seen in the election in 2008 with the election of Barack Obama. It was our political power that radically changed the political landscape because the youth of the nation were activated and motivated to change. Gen Y challenged ideas of the reigning political party and while not solely responsible for Obama’s victory, many, because of the highly charged political climate Millennials  were brought up in, may have had a hand in persuading their parents and older relatives to consider Obama’s candidacy.

The increasing levels of political alertness by Gen Y are going to be one of the major factors of how the Heroes are going to perpetuate the secular collapse Farrell describes. No longer trusting the established sociological rules for political engagement seen currently in US society, Gen Y has and will continue to question this. Given the propensity towards social networking, Gen Y talk to each other about these questions to boot and talk a lot indeed online.

Heroes tend to focus on team work and these are the areas in which we function best because this is the setting in which  this generation has been taught growing up. Political hyper-activism paired with a team mentality will only encourage Millennials to continue to chip away at the mechanisms feeding the American people propaganda of an improving society. I agree with Farrell in the sentiment that “Success makes us our own worst enemy.”  The United States is not the Phoenix that will spring from the ashes; our time is up. Generations before  have paved the way of greed and government corruption.

When the Heroes rising become the full 81 million person power juggernaut in 2019, when the last of the Millennials turn 18, and band together for increasing civic and social reform, things will start changing in rather large ways. This will come just in the nick of time when things economically, assuming they collapse in 2012, will (hopefully) be primed for reform as everyone is ready to put the past behind them and the American public begins to pull themselves up from the bootstraps.

When constituents no longer have faith and, in turn, grant power to the established leadership of any given society, anarchy and social chaos slowly creeps in. People will be the farthest from god they will ever be in this lifetime. This is what can be expected when the Age of Kali descends.

It’ll be up to this same generation, the Millennial/ Hero generation, to institute a new found era of renewed social discipline, continue into an age of optimism as they enter mid-life and effectively live up to the name the generation holds as Heroes.

While it’s scary to feel like my generation is going to be the catalyst that will send our society over the edge of collapse, it gives me hope and optimism to know that it’ll also be my generation to rescue it.

There comes a time in everyone’s life that we make a giant mess of a situation at work. Sometimes, even if it’s something small, in order to get it off of our conscience, we have to apologize to our boss. As Gen Y’s in the workforce begin to move into positions of greater importance, mistakes are bound to happen. That’s the way humans learn; trial and error. So, keep your chin up, everything will be fine. Here are my suggestions on how to apologize to your boss, from my Millennial perspective, regardless of your boss’ generation:

  1. Be HONEST with yourself. Know the reason why you lied or did something against your boss’ instruction. DO NOT go in to speak with your boss before knowing what you’re preparing to apologize for and why you are doing it. If you’re truly, truly sorry, this is the easiest step.
  2. Don’t BLAME anyone else. Own up to your actions AND the repercussions your actions caused. This does not mean beat yourself up over it, it simply means taking ownership of the outcome your actions resulted in. We all make mistakes.
  3. Be HONEST with your boss. Go into detail about what happened, why you felt your actions were appropriate at the time and, make sure you actually express that you are sorry. Sometimes in the discussion, people forget to actually apologize.  A simple “I’m sorry and promise it won’t happen in the future” can go a long, long way.
  4. Don’t BLAME anyone else. Acknowledge the damage you caused openly. Don’t try and play anything down because you’re scared. If your boss finds out later that you left vital information out, your apology will appear contrite and automatically becomes useless.
  5. Ask for NEXT STEPS. If you’ve really messed up, these may be your last words you utter before entering into the droves of those who are also unemployed. This will give your boss the opportunity to open up dialogue with you on how to avoid this from happening in the future and what, if any, professional repercussions you can expect.

There are a few caveats to making an apology in the business setting:

1)      If there are any legal implications to your actions or the actions of your employer, it is important that you do not apologize without first consulting an attorney and/or having one present. An apology over a minor blip regarding a customer service issue is in no way the same as delivering an apology for sexually harassing someone in the workplace. Conversely, if you’ve been sexually harassed, do not accept an apology without first consulting an attorney and/or having one present.

2)      Timing is critical. Don’t spring your apology on your boss 10 minutes before a meeting. Schedule a sit-down meeting if you have to.

As with many things in life, open honesty reigns when it comes to apologizing to your boss, so I cannot stress enough how crucial it is to maintain your integrity though honesty. Your boss will appreciate it and you’ll feel better knowing you don’t have some little detail that might discredit your apology looming down the road.  Good luck!

A leader’s power is derived solely from those who follow. If we as bloggers want to be considered as a valuable and viable source of information and indeed as part of The Media, we need to present ourselves as such.

Recently I was at a meet up for #FoJ (FoJ = Future of Journalism) in my town of Charlotte, NC and the question arose how one should present themselves when attending an event for an opening art exhibit which they intend on blogging about: as a member of the media or just an arts enthusiast. I made a well received comment with the above sentiment- that a leader is only as powerful as their followers believe them to be thus if she wanted to be taken seriously as a member of the media, she must present herself as such.  Assuming being a blogger is not a legit form of being part of The Media she would be setting herself up to be treated in an unfavorable way.

A lot of this rings true in the blogosphere as well as in the workplace.

One thing my mom instilled in me is the concept behind the saying “Always dress for the job you want, not the job you have”. Boiled down its basically fake it until you make it but with emphasis on personal appearance and perception.  As GenY/Millennials enter into the workforce it’s extremely important that we keep in mind the type of persona or, I hate to say it, personal brand we project. Since everyone chooses (or chooses not to choose) their own brand, what’s even more important is that we present ourselves as most importantly confident in our abilities but also as professional.

Expounding upon my last post in which I said I felt like GenY has issues transitioning into the workplace social setting from the school yard social setting, more often than not coming across confident and professional boils down to a few basic things:

1. Dress the part; The “Classic” look is always classy.  Just because your office might have a causal Friday dresscode in place, it does not mean come into work in jeans and a hoodie. Also – if there’s one bit of advice you take out of this entire post: Spend a little extra for quality. It’ll last you 4x longer and in the long run be way cheaper.

  • Ladies: www.workchic.com has some amazing content.  You can buy entire outfits depending on the type of office you work in: causual, business casual or business formal. Visit any of those three sections and you can get tons of ideas/inspiration on what is appropriate for your office setting. If you do buy from them, I love that their prices are not unreasonable at all. Side note: If you want to be taken seriously, put away your ta-tas. Yes, I know we’re young and they’re perky but it’s distracting for both men and women, neither of which will take you seriously if you’re flaunting ‘em.
  • Everyone: If there is ever a question in your mind of if something is inappropriate for work, the answer is automatically YES. Just don’t wear it.

2. Speak without slang; Unless you have an extremely close friendship with your boss, consider the fact that you’d never call them “chick”, “dude”, “bro”  or any similar. Manage your teenage slang and you’re halfway there when trying to come across professionally.

  • Essential:  This website: http://www.businesswritingblog.com/  . If you ever have a question as to how to write something in a professional manner, search on this blog’s site.  It’s my blog bible for written business etiquette.

3. Be careful who you associate with and who you are seen associating with; Being seen chatting on break with the office gossip will get you labeled as such with a quickness. Yes, “guilty by association” isn’t a fair practice but you’d better believe it’s real. If you want to be taken seriously, it’s important that you align with others who are taken seriously. Usually those who are the most respected in offices are not those who are getting plastered on a Wednesday off martinis with their coworkers. Yes it’s expensive fun but save that for Saturday night.

A leader’s power is derived solely from those who follow.  If you’re smart, conscious and professional, you’ll get those who trust and seek out your leadership by default. Everything else will fall into place.

Lately I’ve been blog-crushing pretty hard on Modite. I don’t mean to be so all about it but I can’t help it that Rebecca’s posts inspire me. Her words Career women should try harder – especially in the Midwest inspired this post, particularly when she pled:

There are some enthralling stories about the beautiful complexity that is marriage and motherhood. But these stories just don’t exist about being a woman in the workplace. We need to start telling those. Now.

This is my contribution to this discussion: WOMEN OF EARLY GENY: WE ARE NOT IN HIGH SCHOOL ANYMORE. TIME TO START ACTING LIKE GROWN UPS!

I used to gossip in the workplace. A lot. I liked knowing what was going on, who was mad at who, who was making out with whom in the stairwell during breaks, etc. There is a sense of power in knowing things like that. One day I decided it wasn’t in my best interest to gossip. I realized that I was tired of worrying who would find out I perpetuated a rumor about them and that it didn’t make me feel like a good person on the inside. I didn’t realize how much more powerful I felt for not gossiping until pretty recently when a co-worker with whom I used to gossip with approached me and I didn’t respond with more gossip to add to the conversation. When this happened, the lady who sits behind me poked her head over my cube and said “You know, I really respect you for not gossiping with her. I don’t think people realize how much people hear in cubes and you’ve really matured in that way. Good for you.”

This brings me to my current situation. Since I stopped gossiping and positioned myself as a neutral person people can vent to and trust their venting won’t leave my lips, I have a lot more respect for myself and from other people. It’s amazing how much more people will include someone who is not an office gossip in a whole range of things. I’ve been invited to more social activities outside of work with my coworkers and I’ve noticed people treating me as much more of a leader now that I’m not participating in school-girl behaviors like gossiping.

I think one of the things GenY women struggle with is the transition into the workplace social scene. We make the mistake of treating our workplace social setting just like the ones we’ve known all of our life in high school and college. In school, it’s all about social status. In the workplace it’s all about perception.

There’s a concept in psychology called self fulfilling prophecy which is basically the idea that whatever you believe will cause you to either consciously or subconsciously act in ways that will ultimately cause what you believe to come true.  One example of this is the young woman who fancies herself an up-and-coming leader but believes all women are stuck in hopeless, shitty positions because “it’s a man’s world”. She thinks nothing beyond this other than to bash men and blame them for her stagnant career not realizing that all the time she spends gossiping at work because she’s bored and wants interaction is working against her; being a gossip damages her credibility as a leader because no one can trust her.  She should be at her desk working not standing around yapping! She does not get promoted because she is not seen as a trustworthy, hard worker. The result is her stagnant career. 

What I’m about to say is a hardcore feminist statement. The only way Millennial women are going to be taken seriously and shape the workforce is to infiltrate it and change it from within. This means if we continue to gossip and participate in childish behavior, no one is going to take us seriously. If we want to be seen as serious leaders, THE GOSSIPING HAS TO STOP.

BELIEVE IN YOURSELF! OWN YOUR WORDS, OWN YOUR ACTIONS, OWN YOUR FUTURE.

You’ll feel better about yourself on the inside once you stop gossiping, too. Trust me; confidence & believing in yourself looks good on ALL women. If you keep your beliefs in check and realize that what you believe has an impact on the outcome of everything you do, your life will turn around.

Over and out!

Desiree Kane

[/tough love]

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